The Wrong Color Palette and Good Manners

Yes, it’s true. We are a month away from another wedding. This one is my grandson, Will and his sweetie, Abby’s, wedding. The big day is in April and the colors are black. Just black. For everyone. Now, years ago, a black wedding was unheard of, but in today’s world of “anything goes”, it’s quite appropriate. If you remember, my grandson, Asa, and his bride, Bailey, requested all white for their big day. While we were a little taken aback with a “guest must wear color request”, we had to admit the photos were stunning with everyone in white. So, we anticipate the same with our “all black” color palette.  

The dilemma for me is I’m a “spring’. If you’ve never heard of a “color palette” for skin types, just google it. “Color typing” became a craze in the early 80’s and it’s back.  In fact, back in the day, I was a color consultant, helping others find the colors that look the best on them. So, I’m a spring. Springs are warm and wear colors that are warm to complement their skin tone. Warm-toned faces will have less contrast between their skin, eyes, and hair color. They often have golden or rich undertones. My best colors are brown, tan, peach, coral, etc.–warm colors. Not black. Black is a cool color. Black requires contrast in the hair, eyes, and skin tone. I have no contrast. Without makeup, my face, hair, and lips all blend together. That’s what “springs” do. 

In fact, black is one of my worst colors. While I wear black because some occasions require it, I try to put a warm color close to my face with a scarf, shawl, or blouse underneath. So, what do I do for this all-black wedding? I wear black anyway and never mention that it’s not a good color for me. It’s a little like eating at someone else’s house. We were taught to never complain, just choose a small amount, and eat what you choose. So, come the wedding day, I’ll be in black, like everyone else. 

This is what good manners is all about. I have a few concerns about our younger generation that applies here. The world seems to be telling them that their personal happiness and comfort is of utmost importance. I must ask where does this come from?  It certainly isn’t biblical or God honoring. God never advices us to do only what pleases us. I’m not advocating being a “people pleaser” where we are constantly trying to make others happy with what we say or do; I’m talking about putting our needs or wants aside for the good of the group or even one person. In this case, the bride has requested so I’m going to do everything in my power to see that she has the perfect day. There will be plenty of time later for “reality days” for this couple. The wedding day should be magical! If the bride wants black, I’ll wear black. End of subject.

I would love to hear your opinion on this new fashion trend of the guests wearing a certain color palette or the idea that everyone deserves to be happy or tell me what your color palette is. I’ve been told only 6% of the world is a “spring”. It’s all interesting for sure. Comment with your opinion. 

Have a blessed day. Hugs, Chrys

PS Stay tuned to see my black grandmother-of-the-groom dress!